as someone with dreadlocks, i am bound by the dreadlock code to state that you should indeed get dreadlocks.
but really, you should decide if you want them. they aren't something that happens overnight. for many, it is a long process that involves a head of crazy, fluffy, loopy madness until dreads form (unless you're christa or carlene
). however, if you're willing to just let go and watch nature happen, you'll find a lot of joy in the progress.
as for your long term partner, i doubt that anything such as hair would be the breaking point (surely there are other qualities on which you built a relationship), and in time he will grow to love them. i mean, in theory and minus botox, you are going to get older and your looks will change, right? and he's not going to dislike how you look then, i assume. just something to think about :)